My Forever-Mine!!!

My struggles continue. For years I’ve been complaining bout not having a forever-mine. Still… all these years later, guess what? STILL no forever-mine. What the hell is up with that? Am I just doomed to be alone for the rest of my life?

I had a long talk with a friend of mine today and she was trying to help me get my mind back together again. My questions always start off with ‘why me?” lol but then I move to a huge ‘woe is me’ moment. It’s pathetic really.

She usually just sits and bears my emotional break-down but never without giving me some words of wisdom to hold on to.

Here is my thing though. Even when you try to do everything right… I’m talking about not abusing alcohol or drugs, obeying your parents, going to school, being nice, not sleeping around blah, blah, blah… and you still find yourself in this predicament then what do you do?

My confidant was all about getting to the root of the problem. Her theory is this…

We make idols of the things we value. Most times people think that an idol has to be a figurine or statuette but in reality an idol is more closely defined as a priority in your thinking… like the provider / supplier of your peace and/or satisfaction. Her theory is that my idol is the husband that I think will make me happy. What I should do is find happiness from the source of happiness, God, who will in turn provide the feeling that we’re searching for.

So, then my question was… is it a feeling I’m searching for or a husband. Her answer was that it is the feeling that the husband is supposed to bring. Ummm, maybe but I want the husband for his love and companionship and sperm… yes, I WANT KIDS!

She laughed then told me that it was the feeling of love that I was really looking and that since God was love then it could only come from/ though Him.

Wow, my friend is so smart!

Life Lessons

My friend wrote a blog about the lessons he wants to teach his son and it got me thinking. No, I don’t have kids YET but if I did I guess I’d have some important lessons I’d want to make sure I pass on. Even if I never have kids (L ) I’d still want my nieces and nephews to know/understand these things…

God is real
Jesus is the way, the truth and the life
Your flesh wants to run your life but it’s best to let your mind do the job
Respect authority
No, life is not fair sometimes but are you just going to cry about it or attempt to make a change
Its okay to cry but don’t ever be too emotional… that’s a sign of instability.
As long as I’ve tried to teach you the lesson you’re held responsible for the information so ‘I didn’t know…’ doesn’t fly
Be prayerful about a soul mate
Never settle
I loved you from the very beginning and it’s unconditional
Just because I love you doesn’t mean I’ll put up with anything
I can whip you for discipline but I’ll never beat you
You’re not the only one with questions so don’t ever be afraid to ask
Science an math are fun
Our history is important
Smile, it makes you more beautiful
Play on a sports team, visit museums and learn to play at least one musical instrument
Let your friends use your shoulder to cry on, that’s a sign that they trust you
It’s okay to temper the truth but never lie in order to benefit yourself
Your word is your bond… in the end it’s all you got
Peace should be your preference but sometimes you will have to kick some ass
God does not give us a spirit of fear so never ever be afraid to move


That’s it so far but I’m sure there are lots more that I want to add…